How is it that we can meet a million people in our lifetimes… and only “click” with a small fraction of them?

They become our best friends, our lovers, our spouses, our business partners. Their presence in our lives is pure BLISS.

But what is that magical energy that makes us connect with one person… while other people blend anonymously into the mosaic of humanity?

Recent “click” moments have inspired me to analyze this, one of life’s most amazing phenomenons. I should know the answer, since I ghost-wrote a book called Click: 10 Truths for Building Extraordinary Relationships, for networking guru George Fraser. It’s coming out in January from McGraw Hill, and will explain to the world how and why we “click” with folks.

After writing that book, and interviewing people across the country about how they make deep connections with friends, spouses and colleagues, I have a sociological understanding of this concept.

Yet every time it happens in “real life” for me, I am amazed.

Because it does feel like magic. It feels like the infinite intelligence of the universe synchronized with perfect grace to orchestrate a “chance” meeting — at an exact date and time — between you and this special person. You may have been in line at Starbucks… or sitting alone at a reception… or showcasing your professional talents… when —

BAM!

Along comes a man or a woman who sets your heart a-flutter… or articulates your unique vision for your dream business… or reflects YOU so similarly that they instantly become your BFF (best friend forever).

Instantly, you feel a visceral bond that defies verbal definition. You just FEEL it. You just KNOW — this is a person who is meant to be in my life for an important reason. Maybe for a little while, maybe forever. But this person and I share a vibe that vibrates down to our souls. Their presence is a sensory extravaganza that inspires passion, creativity, hope, peace and prosperity.

And that is the essence of life.

So click on, my friends! And celebrate the divine bonds that bind us in love and laughter.

Posted: September 22nd, 2007 under The Bliss Report.
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Ask anyone who knows me, and they’ll say Elizabeth’s brand is “bliss.”

They’ll talk about my sunny personality, my happy aura, my soothing words of encouragement.

But think about it: anybody who’s blissful all the time is on drugs.

I’m NOT!

So sometimes, I slide to the opposite end of the happy spectrum. I call it “the abyss.”

I was there recently. But no matter how slippery and slimy its walls become, an angel always flutters above to yank me from the abyss’s festering depths of sadness or disappointment or fear.

Always.

This angel may appear in the form of a friend who calls “out of the blue” to make me laugh. Another angel may suddenly cause an email to “ping” into my inbox with great career news. Angels also steer my attention toward strangers whose struggles reset my perspective and make my “issues” seem ridiculously miniscule. The lead angel, though, is my late father — his image often superimposes over my thoughts, telling me that everything is OK.

Here’s another example of how an everyday “coincidence” is really proof that our angels are always orchestrating our safety and happiness. Recently, in the midst of a gloomy mood, I attempted to make a phone call. But my land line refused to dial out. Instead, it replayed a voice mail message from months ago. It was a person I greatly admire, sharing upbeat words of encouragement. In a split-second, optimism jolted through me. More evidence that my angels are always looking out for me.

Know that yours are, too.

Also know, as I have come to learn, that those grueling moments in “the abyss” serve an excellent purpose — they make bliss feel even more wonderful. The lower you’ve sunken, the higher you can soar, and the more glorious it will feel!

One more thing: You can be someone’s angel, too. A simple smile, a compliment, or a kind gesture (like letting the person with one item go ahead of you at the grocery store or sharing homemade banana bread with your neighbors) can brighten someone’s day and renew their faith in the kindness of strangers.

While I always know that angels are fluttering around me and my family — my father even sang us a bedtime song about our guardian angel — I recently met a soldier who smiled down at me and said, “You make me feel like angel wings are spreading around me, making me feel safe.” Wow!

We all have the power to share such a magical feeling of comfort with another person.

So please, today, take a moment and be someone’s angel.

It will inspire in both of you a moment of bliss.

Posted: September 17th, 2007 under The Bliss Report.
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